Wednesday, August 26, 2009
I had a memorable conversation the other day with a friend who has recently become a stay at home father, we will call him
Despondent Dad. This conversation made re-think an age old
problem for men, The Sexual POWER of Women.
No matter how much we try and blur the
lines between men and women and the roles at home or work, there will always be one line that
can never be touched.
THE SEX LINE.
You canʼt see this line from space, like The Great wall of China,
but if you ask any man, itʼs far larger, stronger and often impenetrable. No matter what
roles we play at home, work or in life, as women we still hold all THE ULTIMATE POWER in the bedroom.
So it made me ﬂip the tables and see the situation from a different point of view.
I have 4 children, 2 under the age of 2 and I work from home. By the end of an
average day I am worn out, a wee bit crusty both in spirit and from being covered in
food, snot and general kid goo. I am sure I donʼt smell sexy and I certainly donʼt feel
sexy so naturally I am not into having SEX. Now since the POWER of having SEX
lies solely in my hands, itʼs MY choice on whether or not my hubby get's laid..to be blunt...still with me...
In this scenario, my husband is truly and utterly powerless, but very
Now for the table turning...
Despondent Dadʼs point of view.
I think this quote from him
sums it up quite well.
“I change shitty diapers, do dishes, clean the ﬂoors, take out
the trash, play with and keep the kids amused and learning, tend to the yard....and
countless other things. You would think I was asking for the world for a bloody Blow Job!!!” ...and then he went on to say... " And if I even mention the idea of taking "care of it" myself, she get's all snitty..I can't win...!"
Seriously, have you not thought or said the exact same thing only with.. “I canʼt believe
you still expect me to have sex with you”....replacing the whole wanting a blow job line...
Why after so many changes
in our culture and gender roles, do we as women still have THE ULTIMATE POWER???
It just goes to show that no matter how many little blue pills they (men) invent or
prescriptions you can take...There is nothing more powerful in the world of “Getting
Sexy” than a woman uttering these three little words... “Not tonight honey”...
Not Tonight Honey..martini
1 1/2 oz Vanilla Vodka or Vanilla Liqueur
1/2 tsp honey
1 oz lemon juice
Shake all ingredients with ice and serve in a manly martini glass....Have 2 or 3 of these and for heavens sake go have sex with your man!!! TWICE!!!