Wednesday, April 13, 2011

F#$& You Very Very Much...

I read a post today that made me think a little...just a little, I don't want to sprain something.
It was a post about kids wearing Pink to school to bring awareness to
Bullying... The post was by the fab Emma Waverman it is called "Is your Son wearing pink"...she also added a fab Flash Mob video done by some students...and who doesn't love a great flash mob...they always make me cry...

Her post didn't make me think about kids, I have 104 of my own, they are on my brain enough. It made me think about, well...me and other adults that I know or meet in my life.

Am I a bully? are they?
Then it turned into a real deep think tank sort of thought, my brain is sore from all that pondering shit...so I had to rub wine on it...

How much of what we tell and teach our kids do we practice ourselves...???
I KNOW...it was like an AHAA moment... Or as I like to call it a Cabernet moment.


So I made a list...I love lists...All the things we tell our kids that are supposed to "make" them good people...Most of the kids I know do quite well on this list. Adults I have KNOWN or meet, not so much.

1- Do not lie- honestly, I don't even have to expand on this one.

2- Don't take things for granted- I am guilty of this, I really try not to be. But I catch myself complaining about the silliest things and then give my head a shake. I have taken things and people for granted...this is not a thing to be proud of, but something we all need to be honest about.

3- Be nice to people-
Sounds easy enough...Be nice, be kind, treat people the way you want to be treated. So why is it sometimes so hard. I am going to pull out my bedazzled soap box on this one and have a rant...I see this happen all the time, on FaceBook , Twitter and I am going to "generalize" by saying so many times it's Women. Doing the very thing we preach to our kids not to do. Don't bully, don't hate, don't be mean and cruel to others. If you know me, you know that I am always preaching WOMEN LOVE...not Rosie O'Donnell women love. I am talking about standing up for and behind women. Those you know and those you have yet to meet. There is no greater feeling than the feeling of being supported by your peers. As is there no more biting feeling as being ripped apart in a nano second by a so called friend or stranger for just being you.
***pushing my soap box away***



4- Mind your manners-
Again this pretty much explains itself. My 12 year old son would stand at the door of a mall for 2 hours if it meant not letting the door close on a perfect stranger. If someone holds the door for him, he show his appreciation with a solid Thank You...Count on one hand the last time an Adult did this for you...

5- Respect your elders-
Well just the term respect seems to get lost. I am witness on a daily basis to people or events where someone has shown little or no respect for another human being.
This saddens me greatly.


So what's the deal...Are we now a society of "Do as I sayers...not as I Do'ers?" ...
Ah hell who knows...all I know is that's it's worth a
try...A try to do better.

So to all of you I leave a fab Cocktail recipe of course...and to all the Haters I had the not so pleasure of witnessing a while back over
Boob Fest...I leave you one of my favorite songs from the divine Lily Allen...please take the time & listen to the song...the lyrics can teach us all something...

Cheers






Do as I Do...Daiquiri...

1/4 medium Avacado
3/4 oz fresh Lime Juice
1 cup ice
1 oz Rum
1 oz Malibu Rum

Add ice to blender. Add rums, lime juice, and 1/4 medium avocado in blender. Blend until thoroughly mixed and smooth. Pour into glass and garnish with lime wedge and a healthy scoop of F#@$! You...F%$#@ You Very Very Much..............




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14 comments:

Chelle (hanwayink) said...

wise, wise words.

Tonya said...

Cheers to you! Amazing post!

Jenn W said...

awesome Dee, as usual! Just wish we could get this message to those that really need it. I know I have been thinking twice about my actions as of late, having had a run in a few months back with someone I would have least suspected as a Bully. It took a bystander to point out that was in fact what was happening. Sad, I'm 36 and I let myself be bullied. Not gonna happen again, and I'm trying REALLY hard to ensure I don't do it... and neither do my kids :)
xoxox

Candace said...

OMG Dee, we are on the very SAME page today. I just wrote a big, ranty blog about this tonight. It should be up tomorrow. Cheers sista. Love ya.

Mara said...

I was just saying to someone that you're just plain nice. It's true. And you walk your talk. You don't let your achievements define you, but enhance you, while maintaining your values and integrity.

Jill said...

Amen Sista!!!

Secret Agent Kindness said...

WE all need a reminded to be kind and decent. Sometimes it's all to easy to forget the "goldenr rulle" Especially when we are tweeting and not face to face. It's easier to be harsh or judgemental in writing that in person. Thanks for the reminder to stop and think about our actions and behavious.

Pampered Patty said...

Just what I needed to read this morning. Thank you for this awesome post.

Pam @writewrds said...

Thanks for the reminder. I need to try a little harder at some of this.

And you're just anything-but-plain fabulous.

Rossana [cdnmortgage] said...

Great list, I am definitely guilty of taking some things for granted. Sometimes we need a gentle reminder to show kindness to others and support them- just to pay it forward.
:)

Maria said...

Mwah! xo

Suzie Salmon said...

As always, stated with sytle and class...obviously what you teach your kids too (good for your son)!

Anonymous said...

So if you participate in a flash mob on twitter & spread pure fabrication around how are you not a bully yourself?

Pot meet Kettle.

CocktailDeeva said...

Thanks anonymous...not sure about the whole twitter flash mob thing...

But you are right, we have all been bullies, not saying I am perfect, farthest thing from it.

But learning in the key, know better and do better.

Thanks again for your comment and taking the time to read.

Cheers